It Was One of Those March Days…“It was one of those March days when the sun shines hot and the wind blows cold: when it is summer in the light, and winter in the shade.” This is one of my favorite Charles Dicken’s quotes found in his classic book, Great Expectations.This happens often in life…two things occurring simultaneously that are seemingly so opposite or unexpected. For instance, we may be tired and cranky, and when we look around us, everyone else seems to be chipper and happy.You may be throughly enjoying the restaurant you’re in and the meal you’re eating, while the friend you’re with thinks it’s too loud and her meal (the same one you ordered) is mediocre.Just a few days ago, I was enjoying the sound of the wind howling and blowing through the trees, while others in town were frustrated that their electrical power was down, or devastated that trees on their properties fell over onto their homes or cars.It’s important to understand this “push and pull” effect in life. Just because we’re having a great day and everything is going right, doesn’t mean someone else is experiencing the same, and vice versa.For instance, when the bank teller is taking a long time to assist you, and is frazzled and apologetic for taking so long to finalize your transaction, do you sigh loudly and get huffy and puffy or do you say, “It’s OK. Just take your time. I’ve been there”?When you wake up on the “wrong side of the bed” and you’re running around frantically with your long TO DO list, do you snap at your spouse because he’s having a calm day, sitting at the breakfast table, having a quiet cup of coffee? Or do you take a deep breath, regroup, and do something to get yourself out of the funk you’re in, like going outside for a walk?Once we have this “push and pull’ knowledge within us, it’s much easier to be more patient and compassionate with others…and with ourselves. It gives us the heads-up to be mindful of what’s happening around us, to communicate with understanding, and to realize that not everyone is “experiencing the blowing wind” in the same way.P.S. While it’s necessary to understand others and ourselves, it’s also important to understand our pets. If you own a dog who has bad behavior issues, like uncontrollable barking, unwanted chewing or digging, jumping up on people, and/or not listening to you, I know of something that can help you train and transform your dog into a genius…a well-trained, kind, loving, obedient pet. Visit this link before March 19th for details, because there is an awesome complimentary bonus that accompanies this resource until that date:www.getorganizednow.com/rd-btfordogs.htmlAll the details are below in this issue.
In Closing “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”― Stephen CovenAnd remember...Being organized creates a happier, healthier, more fulfilling life!Warmly,Maria GraciaGet Organized Now!
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1. March Updates on My New Year’s ResolutionsHi Maria, I just wanted to let you know that I made one New Year's resolution. Go through my home like a dose of salts. Here’s what I accomplished:•Emptied every kitchen drawer and cupboard, washed shelves and liners, threw out stale, dated items and re-arranged things•Same for my office desk, including all on top, four drawers and a cupboard, and three bookcases. When I read a book, I always pencil my initials at the start of the book to remind myself, down the road, that I have read it. Donated most of the read ones to my local library. All neat now•Next was two bedrooms with two night tables and two dressers each. A number of drawers have keepsakes and weeded through them.•I also turned hangers around on clothing I haven't worn in a while and at the end of each season, if I still haven't worn them, out they go to someone they may be of use to•Laundry room and living room were in good shape•I have a friend who will be picking up some of the goodies that I no longer need, especially extra kitchen utensils and containers.Your site and the start of a new year definitely gave me the extra incentive to finally accomplish this. Feels real good to have that behind me and will definitely stay on top of it!-- Karen ChapmanNote from Maria Gracia: Your note was so exciting to read, Karen. I’m just thrilled for you and your accomplishments. Congrats, keep it up, and remember…whenever you want to accomplish anything, every day of the year is a new blank page!2. Don’t immediately dismiss what others sayA few weeks ago, I and a co-worker that I’ve only known for about two weeks, were having a conversation. At one point she said to me, “I hope you don’t take offense and you probably don’t even realize you’re doing this, but every time we’re in a conversation, I can’t get more than a sentence in without you interrupting me.”I did take offense and was so mad at her. I thought, “How rude! This woman hardly even knows me.”Then, with conversations I had with others afterwards, I caught myself interrupting over and over again. It was at that point I realized that my co-worker was right. By bringing this to my attention, I was able to focus on it to see if it was true. It was, and I’m working on changing this shortcoming. I just get so excited sometimes that I interrupt what’s being said to throw in my two-cents. Now, I’m more careful about allowing the other person to finish, waiting for pauses to share my thoughts. I even apologized to my co-worker for brushing her off and thanked her for her honesty.So, my reader tip is, don’t immediately dismiss what others say because you don’t initially agree with it. At least consider what may seem like harsh criticism to determine if there’s truth to it. Give yourself the opportunity, if necessary, to correct it.-- Arian M.3. Duplicates in My Closet and Lesson LearnedFor years, when I’ve perceived I needed clothes or shoes, I’d just go out and buy them. This has resulted in a clothes closet that is so full to bursting that I can never find anything to wear. It’s too overwhelming. My mom (who subscribes to your newsletter) visited yesterday and helped me weed out my closet and fill up four donation boxes. I had duplicates of everything…seven pairs of black shoes, four nearly identical navy blouses, nine (yes nine) pairs of black trousers.From now on, I’m shopping in my clothes closet first. I’ve wasted so much money on things I didn’t need…and ended up creating my own clutter. Lesson learned.-- Charlotte K., New York, NYI live in my studio apartment on the upper east side of New York. I love everything about it, except for my limited storage space. Weeding out helped a lot.
Train and Transform Your Dog into a Genius…a Well-Trained, Kind, Loving, Obedient PetWhile many dog owners make the mistake of focusing strictly on physical training, even spending hundreds (if not thousands) of dollars hiring trainers and buying training programs, the one thing they tend to completely ignore is the importance of training their dog's MIND.But the more an owner can first work on improving the intelligence and thinking skills of their dog, the more quickly and effectively they can not only train their dog, but the sooner they can improve his/her behavior too.I am thrilled to recommend “Brain Training for Dogs” created by Adrienne Farricelli…a professional CPDT-KA certified dog trainer. When you have this resource in your possession, you can expect your dog to have significantly improved behavior, an increased ability to learn, a better temperament, improved health, less boredom…and a closer bond with family members!Dr. J Coates, Veterinary Advisor at petMD says, ‘Today’s dogs suffer from a lack of mental stimulation and quality time spent with their people. The resulting boredom and anxiety can lead to no end of physical and behavioral problems. Brain Training for Dogs is the solution! In a clear and concise manner, Adrienne Farricelli walks owners through a series of puzzles and exercises that will challenge and entertain dogs of all abilities.”For details, visit:www.getorganizednow.com/rd-btfordogs.htmlP.S. Get your copy of “Brain Training for Dogs” BEFORE SUNDAY, MARCH 19TH and you’ll also get this FREE BONUS eBook: Behavior Training for Dogs.Inside this exclusive bonus guide, you’ll discover the most common (and frustrating!) doggy behavior problems. You’ll learn why they are occurring and how to finally STOP them for good. Put an end to unwanted behaviors like, unwanted chewing, uncontrollable barking, digging, and dog anxiety.