Had to close up the other thread, it was getting too long.
So again, YOU ALL ROCK!

I did do some babysteps in the basement yesterday, and worked on the rest of the hats for my friend with cancer to wear now that the weather is getting cooler and she needs to cover her head...and keep it warm.

Going to start an accomplish list again. I remember what I don't do, but forget what I did do! LOL

Was able to work on some little favors for a bday luncheon in Oct. and got those painted and sealed, so just have to bag them when closer to the luncheon.

Thank you, thank you!!!! Your support means so much to me. Reading that people that I have never met are thinking and praying for us gives me additional strength and courage to push through this battle.

I have come up with a plan of attack for tomorrow. Of course, since my life is changing minute by minute right now, it could all change again, but here it is for the time being:

- DD has a class tomorrow morning. She really needs to be there as it is her toughest class and she hates to miss class. I need to keep her life as "normal" as possible under the circumstances. So, I've decided that she will still go to her class as scheduled.

- Tomorrow is the first day of the class that I will be teaching online to our region's third graders. I really need to be there and it will only take an hour, the same hour that DD's Algebra II class is. So, I will go ahead and teach my class as scheduled and that will keep me from having to lose any pay.

- I have meetings with two of my families tomorrow afternoon. I am going to tell them that I have a family emergency and reschedule their appointments. They are two of my most wonderful families and I am sure they will understand without me having to go into details.

- After I teach and DD's Algebra class are over, we will head into the city to go to the courthouse to try to get the death certificate. The only problem that could arise is that they won't give it to me. I've checked online and it says that only a spouse, a child or a parent can get a copy. There are some other extenuating circumstances such as being involved in a legal case or law enforcement in which a person can obtain the death certificate. We'll see what happens once I get there. I am taking a copy of our lease on this house (which R's name is still on because he never went to the property manager to change that). I'm also taking the paperwork that I have printed stating that we had applied for a marriage license. I'm taking the email with the wedding chapel confirmation. I'm hoping and praying that I have enough "evidence" that I'm entitled to it. If not, I will see if the credit union can call them or vice versa.

- I am going to wait on the restraining order until Tuesday. At this point, if someone comes to my house, it will be breaking and entering and trespassing, which I KNOW is a criminal offense, not a "civil" one. I talked with R's Colorado brother last night and he told me that I shouldn't worry about it at all (easy for him to say because he isn't being threatened and he's a thousand miles away). I didn't tell him too much because, afterall is said and done, he IS still one of "them" and I don't trust anyone right now. I "think" I can trust him, but just being cautious. He said that Mr. Twit and R's son are both wracked with guilt right now because they treated R so horribly for so many years. And, they are very greedy and since this involved money and material possessions they are furious. He knows them better than I do and believes that they wouldn't actually physically harm me. I'm however not convinced of that because I have seen R's son physically attack him on numerous occassions and the police had to be called. Anyway, I'm going to wait on the restraining order for at least a day as their threats to me indicated that they would be coming to my house in October.

So...that's my plan of attack for tomorrow.

Today's goals:
- BREATHE!!!!!!! Deep breath in, deep breath out.
- Catch up on some work since I will be "out of the office" tomorrow afternoon.
- Pick DD up from her dad's this afternoon and then enjoy the heck out of her this evening.

BTW, I was so exhausted last night that I slept for 11 hours (with a huge hammer under my pillow - that's for you Dianaro! )

Another BTW, in the midst of all of this, DD has had this strange skin thing going on across her abdomin for awhile. We've been watching it for changes, but it really hasn't been anything to cause concern. It doesn't hurt, itch, bleed, it's not red or crusty or odd shaped or colored. We went to the doctor on Friday morninig to have it checked out and he says that he has seen this associated with a seizure disorder. Two of my nephews have a seizure disorder that was diagnosed at about DD's same age. One of them is my nephew that drown two years ago. DD is being referred to a specialist for testing. Please dear God let her be OK.

@Carol first of all many hugs and prayers for you...and DD.

When you go to the courthouse with the tell them you are getting medical bills sent to you and you want to send a copy of the death cert to the providers so they stop bothering you. That might help along with your other arsonal of documents. On a side note, did R have life ins at work and were you his beneficiary? If you were you should be able to get a copy of the death cert for that alone. While you are at it, try to get two certificates. Some places only want an original. The CU should be able to make a copy and have someone important there sign it stating they viewed the original.

Have you asked if you can break your lease since
R is no longer here? that might be a way for you to move and not have R's fam know where you are.

You know the way to go Frugal. Hope it will help Carol!

I wired the wicker chair I found last week,just a few of the side things were apart, they are nice and close now looking good. Now I can clean it and then paint it before the weather gets too cold....Need to look for a pillow then.

sept goals
keep up w errands
go out to dinner at least once/week this month
hold bj's shopping to once this momth
go out w friends or w mike at least 1x every 2 weeks

clean 3 days/week and do 3 cleaning steps each of those days
do b/s on afghan
stay c/u on email
read a book
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i went out to taco bell w mike. she gave us a senior discount drink (they must be free b/c mike ordered a 2.00 meal deal, what i ordered was .99 and the total bill came to 3.30. restaurant meal taxes are high where i live b/c it's a tourist area

also.... at noon, i read my last unread email. it only took 20 min to read what came in since just before i posted

i did a b/s on the afghan today while listening to an interview on here

mary

Carol: My goodness! What a lot of things for you to cope with. But you have a plan and all our thoughts on your behalf. (((HUGS))) Take care.

Forgot to post my goal list here:

SEPTEMBER GOALS

CRAFTS;
Christmas gifts (Picked up the guys partial gifts)
Card class (3)
Embroidery continue


PERSONAL:
Luncheon
Crocheting group
Unfinished Project group (1st meeting)
Cards /gifts for birthdays /September
Trip to farm to see the lambs
Pick up food each Thursday
Go to grandson’s football game/Cancelled
mammogram

HOUSE:
Branches
Basement/Baby steps

Just poppin' in for a sec to let you know I'm still here.

I completed all of my goals for yesterday and have another long list for today. I'll be back later with an updated list and to reply to messages. Thanks everyone for your continued support!

Week 2:
*T party DONE
*first piano lesson DONE
*survive DH's business trip (<48hrs to go)
*pick up DH
*get bikes
*scrapbook basketball pictures
*upload summer photos
*Girl Scout training
*donations out
*schedule mammogram and KUB
*get labs done

A lot of this will be carried over into week 3...

Carol: I hope you get what you need and things settle down for you.

@Maureen you do a great job handling the homefront when DH is gone. I hope he appreciates all you do.

I took PTO today to take client MH for her 2nd cataract surgery. Had to go back to the eye Dr this afternoon for a check and then again next week. 3 weeks later she will have an exam for glasses and pick them up a week after that. Took client JB shopping and to lunch. She has Congestive Heart Failure now on top of Diabetes. She is a trooper though. I don't think she knows how sick she is. I took her in a wheelchair so it was easier on her. I saw MW (MSClient), she was sleeping, opened her eyes when I called her name, told her who I was but she did not know me. She said she was tired. I whispered that it was okay if she was ready to go to heaven. She didn't open her eyes after that. I stopped at the DMV to renew my license and that took all of 15". Their system of moving people along was working well today.

Tonight I have to can tomatoes. We may get frost this week and will cover the plants. I have a lot of cucumbers to make relish.

I have PTO on Fri and Mon and will be working on the (ROTM) garage project. Tomorrow night I work at my part time job. I took the job for financial reasons but am getting so much more out of it. It is true when you love what you do it doesn't feel like work.