Carol
Definitely praying for you. It would be good if you could leave until HE does...or get a restraining order.

I don't know that he has done anything that I could get a restraining order for. I'm checking on it. I'm also checking on filing a police report against his daughter for the message she sent to my DD. Hoping to get a paper trail going in case I need one.

Well, I feel that you all MUST be praying for us because I got an idea this afternoon that just had to have come from above.

Phase 1 of Goal "Get My Life Back":

I have a plan of sorts....Every day when R comes home he sits in front of the TV for hours. If he is not out of this house by Sunday, I am calling DirectTV and suspending our service. I can't cancel without having a HUGE cancellation fee, but I CAN suspend service as if I was going on vacation for a month for only a $15 charge. DirectTV is in my name only so there isn't a darn thing he can do about it. teeheehee..... That will get him motivated to leave!

If he has a problem with it, I'll just say I had to cancel it because I couldn't afford to pay it on my own. Oh well....

He'd probably accuse me of being sneaky, but I would rather think of it as being "smart".

Carol
Smart move. Definitely praying for you and DD.

Goal "Get My Life Back" -
This Sunday, July 24th at 7:00 p.m. is the time that I was going to marry R. Rather than sit here and cry over this, I have decided to do something positive for myself, my DD and others.

If you would please, wherever you are, whatever you are doing, at 7:00 p.m. (your time) on Sunday, say a prayer for DD and I and anyone else that you know that may be going through any sort of domestic abuse/relationship abuse. I will be doing the same for a life-long friend of mine who is being taken advantage of in her current relationship (emotional abuse).

I am calling it "Lifting the Veil". The play on words because of the symbol of a veil being lifted at a wedding, but instead of at my wedding, I am lifting the veil that has been sheltering my eyes from seeing the truth.

Thank you so much!

You go girl!

That is outstanding! Definitely will pray! You are doing the right thing for both you and your DD!

I have added an event to my facebook page "Lifting the Veil" prayer so that all of my friends and family can invite their friends and family and so on and we can get as many people as possible praying for people that they know that are going through this. I KNOW it's not just me, and unlike some things, there IS a cure for this. We just need to stand up, "lift the veil" and DO something about it. Invite anyone that you would like to join in.

Carol I have been praying for you all week to keep strong and it definitely sounds like my prayers are being answered This Sunday I will definitely be praying for you and anyone else who is or has gone through any type of abuse within their home.

Hugs to you. You are doing great!

Thank you!!!!!

Yesterday, after DD was done working at music camp, we headed up to the "high country" near our home. While it was near 100 degrees at our home, as we rose in elevation the temperature kept dropping until we reached near 7,000 feet and 64 degrees. It was wonderful! We even found a bit of snow to dip our toes in, quite a sight playing in the snow wearing a sundress and flipflops I'm sure. DD had never been there before, and she was delighted. Gorgeous green meadows abounded! And, hundreds of beautiful pictures were taken as well.

When we returned home in the evening, R had removed all of his "precious" firewood, his wooden bench from the entryway, and all of his belongings from the garage. This morning, someone was supposed to be coming by to help him move his couch. HURRAY! And, guess what - it's Saturday (remember my specific prayer request).

DD and I left early this morning. One, because her father was meeting us at 8:00 a.m. to pick her up for visitation (I'm gonna miss that girl this week!). And, two, because I didn't want to be around to hear his snide remarks as he and his friend are loading up the couch. After dropping DD off with her father, I headed into the city. I'm in the cool santuary of a wonderful library, and I'm in heaven. I can stay here as long as I want without anybody telling me I need to be home or it's time to go or I should be doing something else. I am hoping that by the time I return home this evening that he is gone.

I am trying to remain strong, but I do have moments where I feel like I'm going to cave in. Then, I remember my DD and all she's been through and her tremendous strength or I'll read through a thread on here and gain strength from all of the kind words and encouragement or I'll read something in a book that shakes me back into reality.