Cyd,
That's very kind of you to get that information for Gabby.

Cyd,
THANK YOU!
I copied your post off into Word, to have a working document for interviews.

Ironic? these past two days, DH has been 'different', he's doing more of his homework from therapy. Still have the conversation disconnects.

Last evening our Middle Son graduated high school! Ceremony, and then we came home. BF drove here from out of town to help me, we stayed up until 2am and talked. My brain is fried.

She rescued me by putting two poster boards together, I'm barely functioning, too stressed out. I got the supplies, pulled some photos, and she laid them out and even handed me scotch tape while I talked.

Grad Party in five hours.

I'm feeling so strange working in marriage therapy while I network for divorce attorneys!

I need to remember when sitting with DH to sign onto the guest user when using the laptop for internet next to him.

I had a bunch of tabs and stickies up two nights ago when he swooped down next to me. don't know if he noticed or not! he'd never say anything if he did. [rolling eyes here]

If he is like most men, he probably didn't notice. But it is always better to be proactive and cover yourself all the way around just in case.....too bad you are not in MI, I would recommend a great atty for you to speak with.

he can use the guest sign on, or make one for himself if he likes. Nope, I'm in MN

Today I got my AmExp in the mail! Now my life is going to be more complicated, just keeping track of new things, so I hope I haven't shot myself in the foot.

Since H is the VISA holder, and I'm an authorized user, it doesn't show up on *my* view of online banking. I know they discourage it, but I sign on, as him, so I can see the VISA and also FIL's Estate stuff, now have to sign on mine as well, to get my new account info.

I ordered checks off my new account, and have received them, but for now, am spending down the old account with my pay in it, will transfer what is left, and keep it sitting at minimum balance.

I'm drafting an email to send to BIL, SIL and copy to H...regarding my not attending the memorial service, not staying at our home, and dealing with the cabin without me.

yeiks. wish me luck.

H is out of town right now...went to the cabin again. He wanted to bring the camper home with him when eh was there memorial day, but forgot to bring registration tabs, so he decided to go up this weekend to get it. He invited me along (thought it'd count towards his counseling homework, but I told him I need some space, and would rather stay here.

Here's the draft of my email to in-laws+H,

it sounds just like Elizabeth Clark, rearranged! oh dear!


I wanted you to know of a couple of scheduling things that have come to my attention. First of all, a Retreat that I signed up for has been scheduled for the weekend of July 2nd, so I will not be attending the memorial service. I feel that I've already had my time to say goodbye, and I hope you have a wonderful time together with everyone, and that you find the weekend meaningful and healing.

I'm afraid it's not going to be possible for you to stay at our house. I'm sure that you'll be able to find an alternative place to stay, this far in advance. I'm just not emotionally ready to host company.

And just so you know, as far as heading up the activities at the cabin: organizing the repairs, emptying and selling of the cabin, I won't be able to do that. You should talk to Eric directly, and I'm sure you'll be able to work it out directly with him.


LOL

It'll be interesting to see how they react to your e-mail.

Gabby I only post on the homes and family thread as a rule, but I do read most of the others and I just wanted to say WELL DONE! Your email is fantastic and I hope it has the desired effect. It is unfair for you to be expected to organize everything so well done you for saying no